June 19, 2011
Father's Day has always been a day I have loved. I grew up with the world's greatest dad, and it was a joy to celebrate him once a year. And now I also have the world's greatest husband, who also rocks it as a Daddy. Not to mention a fantastic father-in-law. So I look forward to this special day once a year to show these men just how much they mean in my (well, our) lives.
Holidays are always as much craziness as fun when your families are close by. At one point in our marriage, I was really lobbying to alternate and just get to relax and spend a whole holiday with one family (I really wanted to be fair about it, of course). But my husband was all for seeing everyone every holiday (Thanksgiving is our one true exception). So I embraced the craziness! And it turns out that when you don't expect relaxation to be a big part of holidays anymore, they still turn out to be just as fun. Just different. So....
We started the day off right with a big, unhealthy and perfectly scrumptious breakfast with my Dad. We ate, laughed, and played with the kids. It was quiet without any of my siblings around, but kind of special to get my parents all to ourselves! My dad has made it no secret over the years that he loves Father's Day and his birthday... even more than Christmas! Knowing that he loved them so much always made me pay extra attention to those special days. And to be honest, it made me love them that much more myself! My dad and I are kindred spirits. We share a special bond, and I know that no matter what he believes in me. He believes that I am good, smart, and beautiful. He knows I am capable, kind, and honest. My Dad knows my potential and what is more, he believes I will reach it. You have no idea how wonderful all those things were growing up. And even now when I doubt myself and then I start to think of my dad, his faith in me buoys me up and gives me confidence to work to be the person he believes me to be.
In turn, my Dad knows I grew up thinking he was the best man on Earth. And he graciously scooted over to allow my amazing husband to share that honor with him when I got married. He knows that I find him inspiring, humble, strong, and kind hearted. He is a hard worker, generous, and knows how to kick back and have a good laugh. He makes the best popcorn in the world, and with a big smile he always answers, "Dad, do you want to play a game?" with "Do you want to lose?" He gives the best bear hugs, listens well and offers sound advice, and he is a talented story teller to boot! Dad, remember those days lying on my floor at night and making wind noises while you brought Chip and Chipper to life? And now it warms my heart to see the first man I loved play with my own little children.
After church we headed out to Tooele, and actually did have a pretty relaxing evening with Griff's family. I know, I guess it isn't always craziness! Randy and Cindy made rotisserie chickens on the BBQ - so yummy! But mostly it was fun to enjoy Randy. My father-in-law is really a special man. He has an incredible work ethic, and he has an intense love for his children. He taught Griff through example how to be strong, respect oneself, and be unselfish. His example showed Griff how to cherish a wife and allow her to become a part of himself. He is a loving, supportive father-in-law and a devoted Grandpa. I know he loves my boys deeply, and I look forward to watching them build their relationship in coming years. And I love watching the special bond Randy has with his first grandson, Chet. It warms my heart to watch them together.
And finally... my very favorite part of Father's Day was celebrating the man who makes my heart complete. Griff is an amazing father, a devoted husband, and a talented and kind man. I was talking about Griff with one of my friend's parents before we got married. They always really really liked Griff. My friend's mother said of Griff, "Still water runs deep." I always think about that when I think of my husband. He is level and collected, but he has this inner strength and surety of purpose that pulls me to him like gravity. He makes me laugh, keeps me on my toes, and can make our boys laugh like I will never be able to. He loves me with all of himself. He is always up for a challenge, and loves to try new things. I never question that he adores me... even when I'm pretty sure he doesn't particularly like me at the moment. And I know that he will take care of us. It is a joy raising my sons with a man like Griff. Happy Father's Day to the man and father I could never do without! I love you, Griffin Jack.
